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Episode 011: Pausing

Transcript from Stirred By Words Episode 011: Pausing

Chrissy Holm (00:05):

Do you love words? Are you passionate about diving into meaningful conversations? Hi, welcome to Stirred by Words, a podcast that focuses on words and questions that impact our daily lives. I'm your host, Chrissy Holm, health educator, writer, curious creature and now, podcaster.

Chrissy Holm (00:39):

Today, we'll start with a health tip. This week's tip is self-care. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, self-care means taking the time to do things that help you live well and improve both your physical and mental health. And even small acts of self-care in your daily routine can have a big impact. We'll hear more from our listeners later in this episode about top tips for practicing self-care. But for now, let's just take a moment to think about how you're doing.

Chrissy Holm (01:11):

Close your eyes and just notice your breathing. Is it shallow? Are you holding your breath? Take a few deep breaths in and out through the nose. Now imagine all the obligations you have on your plate. Kids, pets, parents, friends, partners, work, hobbies, social media. Picture your day-to-day for the last few weeks. What emotions did you feel? Happiness? Sadness? Frustration? Disappointment? Excitement? Take a deep breath in and out of your nose. Now ask yourself, were you trying to accomplish too much in one day or not enough? What expectations did you set for yourself? Were they unreasonable? Do you feel exhausted or energized over the last few weeks? Were you too hard on yourself or not disciplined enough?

Chrissy Holm (02:33):

Take another deep breath in through your nose, but out through your mouth this time. Once again, in through your nose and out through your mouth. Notice your breathing. Now think, what does taking care of yourself look like? Do you need to ask for time off or a mental health day? Do you need to find time to rest? What energizes you and how can you incorporate that into your next week? Deep breath in. Deep breath out. Twice more. Deep breath in and deep breath out. Deep breath in and deep breath out. Remember, don't be too hard on yourself. You're doing a good job and you're practicing self-care right now, even if it doesn't feel like it. One more breath and then open your eyes. Just notice how you feel. And remember, you are important.

Chrissy Holm (03:59):

Now it's time for today's word, pausing. Dictionary.com defines this word as: Number one, a temporary stop or rest, especially in speech or action. Number two, any comparatively brief stop, delay, wait, et cetera. Number three, a break or rest in speaking or reading to emphasize meaning, grammatical relation, metrical division and so on. Fun fact, the word pausing was first recorded in 1400 and words related are hesitation, hiatus, interlude, lapse, lull and hesitate. Today's question is, what is your top tip for pausing and practicing self-care?

Chrissy Holm (04:47):

So I laugh because this is the one thing that I have the hardest time with. Taking care of myself. As I sit here, I'm podcasting, writing, book coaching, having a full-job parenting and so on and so forth that it really leaves very little room for connecting with myself. But with the encouragement from my husband, a mental health coach and a therapist, pausing and practicing self-care is super crucial to my healing and to everyone's healing. That's exactly why I'm wrapping up Season 1 of this podcast. I have some great ideas for Season 2, but I really want to rebuild my energy so that you all can have a kick ass experience for Season 2.

Chrissy Holm (05:32):

Now, what is my top tip? First be gracious with yourself. It is hard to practice self-care. Extremely difficult. And I've kicked myself for not doing it every day. But my top tip is just to keep trying, forgive yourself, keep trying, forgive yourself. It's a cycle. My favorite thing to do for self-care is walk and write, even if the walking is only 10 minutes. And even if the writing is only a sentence or two, be it an affirmation or journal entry. Those two things really bring me back to who I am as a person. They give me energy and help me self-reflect, which I feel is super important. So take a pause, breathe deeply, go for a walk or write and find what works for you. You'll forgive yourself when you mess up and you'll do it all over again.

Chrissy Holm (06:32):

Today we'll hear from seven listeners with their thoughts on this question. What is your top tip for pausing and practicing self-care? First we'll hear from Becca and she was on Episode 1: Community. This is what Becca says.

Becca (06:47):

The term self-care is a new one for me. I grew up in a family system and a culture and religious system that said that you must always deny yourself. And so I was taught that you work harder, you put others first and yourself last. And so for me self-care these days is more of a mindset and reteaching myself. So when I say, I don't need to sleep, or I just have to do this one more thing, even though I'm exhausted and I'm irritable, I've been better about stopping myself and saying, wait a minute, is this really going to benefit you or anyone in the long run, if you don't stop and go to sleep? Or do something nice for yourself? Because I found that in the end, I am more happy and more productive and a better mom, wife, friend to everyone around me when I actually do put myself first.

Chrissy Holm (07:41):

Next we'll hear from Holly. She was also part of Episode 1. This is what Holly's thoughts are.

Holly (