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Finding Sunlight: A Coming-Of-Age Memoir About Love Within The Wreckage of Purity Culture


In this inspirational coming-of-age memoir, Chrissy Holm separates purity culture, LGBTQ religious trauma, and a patriarchal father-daughter relationship from all the possibilities of meaningful love. 

The church has a lot of views on women’s relationships. Respect the sanctity of marriage. Save yourself for your husband. Never, ever think about a wife. Homeschooled at church and raised by a devout father, Chrissy internalized scripture’s strictest messages. She suppressed her bisexuality and followed all the teachings of purity culture.


When she turned sixteen, her parent’s divorce flipped the script. Devastated and unsure of her values, Chrissy jumped from one relationship to another, searching for commitment and solace from a depression that crept more to the forefront every day.

More a triumphant love memoir than a religious trauma book, Chrissy Holm thoughtfully unpacks her sexuality, faith, and mental health with achingly relatable vulnerability and insight. Readers who grew up in evangelical or fundamentalist religious communities will find themselves in these stories as Chrissy seeks meaning in her religious upbringing—finding forgiveness for her dad, her past relationships, and ultimately, herself.

Raw and hopeful, this liberating memoir is an intimate look at how one woman found the courage to question what she was taught to believe to uncover her own truth and navigate love with pride.


“We don’t have a map or directions for relationships, love, religion, or God. We get lost. We stumble . . . and we pray that we will find the sunlight.”

30 Lessons in Life's Soccer Game

"Lesson 2: Be prepared, otherwise you might get smacked in the face.
Lesson 5: Move on when you get scored on.
Lesson 23: Reflect on what's behind you and imagine what's in front of you."


For the past 25 years, Chrissy has sprinted her heart on the soccer field, bounced from one position to another, and tried to grasp life's soccer game.

From bruises, muddy uniforms, and bloody noses to life lessons, best advice, and mistakes, Chrissy shows you the perseverance it took to become a full-time writer in this short memoir and self-help ebook, inspiring you to reach your goals.


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